It’s the morning after you, mom and son, had sex. Reality is starting to settle as the haze lifts. The evidence is probably all around you… scattered clothing, being in bed naked together, the cold dampness of the sheets. You’re probably experiencing a mix of strong feelings. It’s understandable and completely normal, even for moms and sons who planned and discussed having sex before actually going down that road. You may find it awkward to be around each other for awhile. Unable to make eye contact or even talk with each other. Again, perfectly normal.

Confusion, guilt, fear, but also bliss and satisfaction. You may feel that you made a mistake, even if you enjoyed it. You got closer to each other than you ever thought possible. It can be hard to reconcile your thoughts and feelings. A mom and son having sex together is a huge deal and the ramification matches this grandness. It’s the reason so many moms and son can’t ever cross that line.

While both mom and son may struggle with mixed emotion, it is often more difficult for the mother to reconcile what happened than the son. Any mother who has had sex with her son that doesn’t have any initial guilt, shame, or fear isn’t telling the truth. It is our duty to protect our children. Yes, the happy feelings are present, but mixed in with those negative feelings.

How do you get through it? Be rational and mature about it. You both gave into the same temptation that lure men and women every day. Understand that the doubt, guilt, and fear should pass with time even for those who choose never to do it again. The next thing to understand is that you did nothing wrong, as long as you both consented and did it for the right reasons. No one else ever has to know.

You will look at each other different. This will be the case forever. You saw, heard, smelled, and tasted each other in such an intimate way that you will never forget. You will find it near-impossible not to remember those senses each time you are around him/her.

If pregnancy is a concern and you didn’t take precautions, ensure that you take retroactive measures to prevent it. But, don’t be afraid of such a possibility either. There are many cases of healthy children being born to mom-son sexual partners. Take proper care, being even more diligent than normal. This a big consideration that you should have discussed before.

Decide how you want to go from here. You may have already discussed this before, but feelings may have changed now that you’ve actually done the deed. Do you want to do this again? Do you want it become a regular thing? Do you want to become romantic partners, or just have some fun with each other?

If you really feel that you two made a mistake and regret having sex, be honest about that. Thank each other for a good time, then agree never to talk about it again and remove any reminders that it ever happened. Clean up everything well, delete any texts/communications/media referencing sex with each other. Basically, wipe out any evidence you can and bury the memories as best you can. They will be forever present, so distract yourself when they do arise.

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